A Letter to My Stepdaughter
Expensive stunning youngster,
I would like you to know that I did not at all times assume it will work out, you and me and your father. I did not at all times belief and have religion that I might be the individual you and he wanted me to be. There have been days I failed miserably. There have been occasions I used to be resentful and I took it out on you. However then we might have these tiny moments of awesomeness. Tiny fantastic moments that made all of it well worth the stress and sleepless nights. You ARE value each second of my very own battle as a stepmom. It wasn’t you who wanted to alter. It wasn’t you that made me offended. It was me. It was my very own proud, egocentric anger that created distance and pressure. You probably did nothing fallacious. Let me repeat that. You probably did nothing fallacious. I by no means ever meant to make you’re feeling such as you have been the issue. I hope you may really perceive this at some point.
I would like you to know that being a stepmom is each a privilege but additionally very difficult. There isn’t any handbook for it, and we stepmoms are inclined to be taught as we go. No step household is strictly the identical. However being your stepmom has been rewarding past measure. You have got taught me issues like compassion, sensitivity, and endurance. Being a stepmom has afforded me so many alternatives to be taught and to “step up.” Typically I did. And it felt superior to have the ability to be there for you. Different occasions I did not step up, and I wanted that I had. More often than not I am studying the best way to be your stepmom as I’m going. For awhile I selected to hold again and let your dad do a lot of the parenting as a result of I did not know what I used to be alleged to do. I nonetheless do not typically. However one factor I do know for positive is that I really like you and who you might be rising as much as be. Sure. I do. With out circumstances. You are in my coronary heart simply as if you have been my very own daughter.
And now you are getting older. I’ve watched you develop into this stunning, form, inventive individual with your individual concepts and opinions and views of the world. And I hope that you simply embrace these issues that make you particular wholeheartedly. I hope you are taking your distinctive household state of affairs and might create an superior story from it. Your story. Who you might be. You are not your mom, your father, your stepdad or me. You are not your cousins, your neighbors, your classmates. You might be you. And who you might be is so completely fantastic.
My want for you is that you understand how a lot you might be liked. And I would like you to know the way a lot you’ve got modified me and my coronary heart as a girl and as a mom. You might be serving to us elevate our son (your brother) in a house that is stuffed with pleasure. Your goodness grows and teaches him goodness. Your love and kindness teaches him love and kindness. You won’t comprehend it, however he appears as much as you.
I do know you will have a number of individuals to speak to about issues, about life. And I’ll or might not be in your high checklist of these individuals. However please let me share one thing with you that I would like you to take with you wherever you go: Be courageous along with your life. Be good along with your selections. Share your items and your pleasure with the world. You might be too precious, too particular to not. And please know that I’m right here for you when you ever want me to be.
Love at all times,